Death and Dying

Deathand Dying

Deathis an inevitable passage of life where one ceases to exist. Manypeople have tried to explain the mystery behind death and accordingto Belsky, in her textbook , the concept of death hasbeen explained in depth. In chapter 15 of Belsky textbook, sheexplains three pathways to death. The first is where sudden deathoccurs, for example, accidents. The second pathway is death comingabout after a consistent decline as in the case where one succumbs toinjuries. The third pathway involves death as a long process that iserratic. People who suffer from HIV/AIDS take this pathway.

Thecause of death

Deathhas changed in the Western culture compared to what it was initially.Nowadays the majority of people die young contrary to the precolonialtimes where aging was the main cause of death. People die fromterminal diseases due to the change in lifestyle (Corr, 2009). TheHmong are found in the United States, and they have their beliefs andbehaviors when it comes to death and dying. Among the Hmong, when oldpeople die, their bodies are kept inside their houses for five daysuntil the bereaved family and relatives arrive. The funeral is afive-day ceremony that involves practices like chanting to guidespirits to heaven, speeches, ritualized crying and drumming. Gravesare earth mound piled with tree branches over them to preventdisruption by animals.

Stagesundergone before death

Kluber-Rosscarried out interviews and provided a detailed explanation of thefive stages of death. She stated that before anyone succumbs she hasto undergo the following stages in order the denial that is a copingmethod that yields positive results. Anger, bargaining, depressionand finally acceptance which is a stage where one makes peace withthe fact that death is inescapable.

Kluber-Rossalso had critiques and according to them Kluber-Ross lacked scholarlytraditional preparation and that her research faced limitationsbecause there lacked data on the subject of death. Her modelconsisted of stages, and that concept was not well received byresearchers like Fitchett and Davidsons. According to Churchill,there was clinical misuse and use of the concept of stages, and hebased his disagreements on the effects the stage model could impactin the expectations of caregivers.

Theimpact of death

Middleage knowledge concerning death is used to refer to that state wherethose who are ill can sense their close deaths but cannot come tocomplete terms with that fact emotionally. Dying “off-time” cancause deep grief to the family and friends and it is usually veryhard to take the death of a child or anyone in their youthful years(Corr, 2009). Normally this is because, at that tender age, one isusually still full of life and those who cherish the person haveexpectations of them in life yet to come.

Thingsthat I would like to happen before I die

Oneof the major things I would like to happen before I die is that Ishould live to see my children grow and spend quality time with them.Additionally, before I die I would also like to meet most of my lifegoals so that I can die peacefully.

Agood death

Agood death can be described as one that is particularly free fromsuffering and distress. For death to be termed as good, both thepatient and the family members should display certain behaviors. Forexample, they should be able to manage pain and make decisionsclearly. There is also closeness to people that care and, as aresult, being at peace. This kind of death is good according toBarbara Coombs-Lee and Belsky.

Thatspecial medical attention given to people with serious illnesses iscalled palliative care. The main reason for this kind of care is tofocus on providing relief from stress and disease symptoms withwhatever diagnosis. Birnbaum looks at the attitudes of some doctorstoward palliative care and it is clear that not all of them do it astheir call demands but rather have negative attitudes.

Thelegacy I would like to live in this world

Oneof the major footprints I would like people to remember me for is aGod fearing person. A person who was ready to act as per the will ofGod and also willing to learn much about Him.


Deathis a sure event to any living creature and it is a common thing toplan for one’s death. Whether by writing a will or putting downsome end of life care instructions. Each person has a set of goals toachieve before death or maybe to strive to leave a legacy afterdeath. Though it never comes easy, everyone learns to live without alost loved one. One never really gets to decide where their deathsshould occur, but there are disadvantages that come with dying athome. The caregiver should be able bodied and also that emotionalstress at home is maybe so overwhelming.


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